We'd rather believe that our anxiety is due to biological factors so we can take a pill to deal with it. But masking panic is not same as managing panic. If you want to transcend your anxiety, you've got to get to bottom of it.

The truth is that we only panic about things we don't feel confident handling.

If we don't handle a particular situation well, we dread next time we must face it. We doubt that we will ever handle it skillfully even if we have done so in past. We worry about it--and then worry about worrying! Fearful avoidance becomes our new way of responding. Before we know it, we're stuck in panic purgatory.

Insert mindfulness here. Don't ask for anxiety--ask your anxiety. Focus on first thought you have when that panic starts bubbling up and gently ask, "Why? Watch...then ask again. Play through several “why” cycles—and learn. Panic is simply misguided attention. We must learn to watch ROOT (some element requiring greater self- esteem) instead of RESULT (all-night panic party) of our anxiety.

Ask your anxiety and listen carefully. Use mindfulness to help you redirect your attention, and you will learn to disconnect that panic button for good.

So here I was in a distant city this day calling on a certain apartment community to sell maintenance supplies. My goal was always to make as many calls as I could in one day and add as many new customers as I could sign up. Once I arrived on complex I spotted a man who I assumed was maintenance supervisor hurrying down sidewalk. I called out to him and he stopped.

Now here is climax to this incident that day. I asked him if he was maintenance man and he agreed he was. I then introduced myself and proceeded to make my lenghty presentation pointing out all benefits of my services and products. When I finally finished prospect looked at me with a very stern look on his face and said, " I don't have authority to buy you'll have to talk to manager" I said, "Why didn't you tell me that before I began my presentation. He said," mister you talked so fast I couldn't get a word in at all.

Another sad part of this story was I was breaking in a new salesman. Not a very good lesson for someone just starting out with company. In addition to that, I finally went to manager to make my pitch to her without success. Even though I asked her questions before I started talking she wasn't a bit interested in changing vendors.

Since I'm a very positive thinking person, I didn't let that incident discourage me. In retrospect it probably was best thing to happen. I learned a valuable lesson and so did new salesman as well. After that I learned to first ask questions and then listen intensely to response I get. Consequently my closing rate became much more successful.

If you have lost contact with a family member, a good friend or have had difficulty making new friends because of poor communication skills I hope above story will help you solve your situation.

Sonny Julius is a 74 year old retired sales supervisor. His interest in the internet eventually led him to write an ebook geared to senior citizens. The ebook is a guide for living the senior lifestyle.

“How To Have The Time Of Your Life For The Rest Of Your Life” For more information go to: http://www.absolutelysenior.com