The next step is making smaller goals. In order to reach your main goal, where do you need to be in next month? How about in next week? Write it down!

After you have your goals in place, be sure to put them in a place where you can see them daily. Dry erase boards work perfect. Write all your short term and long term goals on them, along with your "To-Do" list. (explained in part 2).

What are you waiting for? Set those goals!

Come back together even if you’re hurting Develop a simple ritual for coming back together after a fight. Acknowledge that you fight only because you feel hurt. If you can accept that, it’s easier to have a truthful conversation.

Know that things are not how they appear Every relationship is a tangle of projection, transference and a dose of denial. It’s as if your partner is holding a mirror to your face and shows you what you hate most about yourself. The earlier you can stop blaming and start talking better you’ll feel.

Accept growing pains All relationships go through stages. Very few parents throw out their children when they hit ‘Terrible Two’s’ so why leave a perfectly workable relationship?

Be realistic No one person is ever going to fulfill your every need and desire. Imaginary couples fall in love quickly and we never really hear how it goes after credits have rolled. Real couples fall in love slowly and live fully ever after.