Sign up for your childWritten by Andrea Cyrus
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To sign up to all these things may seem like a negative approach to negative behavior by expecting negative things, but if it were all that negative, results could not be so positive. We are not engaging in negativity, we are simply and consciously saying YES to life. Because life is going to happen; babies poop, toddlers cut hair, school kids avoid homework, and teenagers lie. When we have a high resistance to things that are unavoidable we will respond with resistance (anger, hurt, disappointment, feeling overwhelmed, stress, negativity, impatience etc.) When you accept these things as part of deal, you have won half battle. You will know that what you are experiencing is normal, you will not be surprised or stressed out or overwhelmed easily, you know what to expect and will prepare yourself accordingly, your responses will come from acceptance and understanding. Sign up for your child, know what to expect, Child-proof your house, as if you were getting prepared for a tornado, get ready for experience of a life time that lasts about 2 decades, and Take it with Humor. You just read first Chapter of e-book Joyful Parenting. To read more go to http://joyfulparenting.truechanges.com/
Andrea Cyrus, Author of the e-book Joyful Parenting, Life Coach and Dr. of Metaphysical Science has a passion for finding joy, and joyfully shares her findings through her work as a Life Coach.
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The answers, though painful as all growing is, turned out to be simple. We called a secret, emergency powwow of his brothers and sisters. It was last family gathering from which he was excluded. A very wise uncle settled hotly debated issue of whether he should be told by saying: "He'll be leaving you soon enough. Why put a distance between you even sooner by pretending? You can put all that energy into helping each other get through this." Once my father was told we decided together, with him, to treat his passing as natural though untimely event that it was. He would do it at home, among his loved ones. Just as birth is no longer something that happens to women but a process they participate in, my father's death did not happen to him. He died. We never pretended that he would get well, or treated him suddenly differently because he was dying. More often than not it was he who comforted us, retaining to end identity of father we'd known and loved. This was a family that never learned to say good-bye. Anyone going away on a long trip would find, at door, that everyone had suddenly disappeared. It hurt too much to take leave of each other. Now, of course, we had to. We wanted to. Each of us spent private time with him saying all things you always mean to say to someone you love and somehow never do. And in those quiet, solemn talks, mostly filled with affirmations, he launched us. We flew. My young brother came forward with a strength we had not known was there because we had not needed to look. Two grown daughters and a wife stopped being girls at last because man who had always sheltered them needed women now. We learned to give, and he to receive. His relinquishment of outer cares freed him to undergo a long overdue spiritual journey, a journey he shared every step of way. He groped for, wrestled with, and found his God, and left us with his finger pointed in right direction. We didn't just sit and watch him die. We all participated. It was intensely painful, but intensely intimate. I learned more about my father in those last few weeks than I had in 32 years, or might have in another 32. There was a feeling of wholeness in his passing with, rather than from, us. It was as if old age and wisdom that accompany it had been condensed, but not lost. I miss him, but not who he would have been. It could have been worse. Copyright 2000 Margaret Vlazny, LCSW
Maggie Vlazny is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and RCI Singles Coach practicing in Fairfield County, CT. For more information, please see her website at www.therapyct.com or contact maggie@therapyct.com
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