1: We are all is 100% responsible for our own reality. 2: We are all guided from within. 3: The others are totally responsible for reality they create. 4. My self-worth is totally independent of what is happening with others. 5. My self-worth is independent of other people?s ability to trust me or not. 6. I am responsible only for my efforts and not for results of my efforts. 7. I deserve love and respect exactly as I am. 8. I trust others and Divine. 9. I feel united with others when I share my weaknesses and faults with them. 10. I am worthy of love and respect because of my being, not because of any role I play.

Those around Anthony can:

1. Understand that he is seeking his self-worth and inner security by playing this role. 2. Take responsibility for their own reality. 3. Lovingly refuse to allow him to overwhelm them and take control of their own lives. 4. Lovingly assert their need to take responsibility for their own decisions and accept consequences of those decisions.

(Adapted from "The Psychology of Happiness" by Robert Najemy available at http://www.Amazon.com and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. This book and other writings can be viewed at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com where you can also download FREE articles and e-books.)

The subconscious holds on to this pre-determined pattern for dear life. This is what it knows to be true of its Universe and it will fight to save it. This is reason why you can sometimes try as hard as you like, and still fail.

This is where subconscious conditioning comes into play.

Sometimes fear of overcoming fear is greater than original fear. It means we will have to go out and DO SOMETHING about our fears (and that can be really scary:-)

The feeling, however, that you experience once you've conquered that fear, is most amazingly exhilarating feeling around. To know that you looked that audience square in eyes and delivered best speech of your life, fills you with a tremendous sense of achievement and a solid foundation that says, 'I CAN do anything!'

Strive always to 'Feel Fear...And Do It Anyway! The exhilaration you will feel on overcoming a blockage that has plagued you for so long, will be well worth blood, sweat and tears of blasting through that barrier.