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What do I mean by widening? As people come and go in and out of our lives they teach us valuable lessons. The more good relationships you have in your circle,
more you set yourself up to have an abundance of support. We could all use that...huh? You open door for more opportunities to come your way. Behind every opportunity is a human being. I have no doubt that my divorce became easier because of reserves of friendship I have. I can only imagine how hard it would have been if I felt alone. Recently a few of my friends informed me of their intentions to move. While saddened by news, I realized that I have become so comfortable with my inner circle that I have not been taking that extra step to open doors to new friendships. When we first moved in I made it a priority to get to know everyone in neighborhood, and have been blessed by those relationships for over 6 years. Thus came idea for this article. I realized that I am missing out because I have become so comfortable. I am quite certain that I am not alone. Yet in my business where I am focused on spreading my wings I continue to be blessed with support and new opportunities...hmmm. So consider widening your circle. Reach out and add a new relationship. Notice how you grow from connection.Allow me make a request that you can accept or reject. Try taking your relationships to a deeper level, and see what happens. This is not about digging up your deep, dark secrets so don’t get nervous. Many of us don’t pry because we were raised with saying “don’t be nosy”. However, it is natural to be curious. One way to gain access to wisdom is by asking “what” questions. “What” questions are a great way to open up an interesting conversation. What was your most incredible experience? What is most interesting tidbit about your family? What was best advice you ever received? Another phrase to use is “tell me about...”. Tell me about your home town. Tell me about how you chose your profession. We often bobble on surface like a beach ball because it is just easier, and never realize treasures that lie below surface.
Seek story behind each person and grow from connection. Get to good stuff...Starting Now!
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Beth Tabak is a Business & Life Coach, columnist, & owner of Starting Now. She is 100% committed to coaching small business owners and professionals to grow beyond limits, and create the business and life they keep thinking about. Set your goals, pick up a task list, take a class, discover a new resource all complimentary at http://www.startingnowcoaching.com .
