Dr. Phil has done it again -- come up with just right descriptive phrase. On his show other day, he confronted a young man saying: "Are you just an arrogant jerk who likes to get in someone else’s face and bark?" I was in need of this descriptive phrase because I was in an office other day where one of principals did just that -- he would get in someone else's face and bark. Every time. All day long. That was his only modus operandi.

It worked. But in what way?

I was reminded of this because my sister just e- mailed me that she’d had an awful day. She’d been trying to fix a defective keyboard, she said, “while listening to my neighbor's dog bark every 3 1/2 minutes.”

My own poor dog, as she became aged (and she lived 17 years) would become confused easily, and if frightened or upset, would bark every few seconds at regular intervals, until she became hoarse. She would do it at my house if left outside to what was to her "too long" (so of course we didn't), but when I had to leave her at kennel when I took a trip, kennel owner said she had done this for 24 hours (heart-breaking). However -- when she would do this, I responded. While compassionate for her condition (blind, nearly deaf, very old, and much beloved), it was one of most irritating things I've had to endure, and I would do ANYTHING to stop it. The kennel lady felt same way. She ended up taking my dog home with her.

Unfortunately, there are people who do same thing only with words. It has immediate effect of getting them what they want, but with EQ, we're always looking at long-term situation, yes? Everyone threw this man what he wanted because they would do anything to get rid of him.

Their main goal was to avoid him at all costs. They skirted around him in hall, turned and went other way when they heard him coming, passed papers around rather than going into his office, left if he was headed their way, and even warned others, i.e., "boss alert."

Small wonder I found out he had been divorced 15 years. People had to put up with him at work, but no one was willing to at home.

He truly "barked" orders, and barked everything else. Is this effective leadership? Is this effective relating? Is this any way to "be"? No, it is not. He had some good ideas, but like my poor aging dog, everyone's main reaction was to get rid of noise as fast as they could. He missed getting information he needed because no one wanted to risk being around that noise.

Copyright 2005 Song Chengxiang

What is right thing I need to do to bring forth my desires?

What actions do I need to take Now?

Am I doing right thing or wrong thing?

These are questions that most of us constantly ask ourselves in mind. Most of time, we are asking unconsciously.

We are constantly judging what we are doing, because we are afraid of making mistakes. Let me now show you how to choose right action that will lead you to your ultimate goals.

First of all, let's discuss ...

**The root of all procrastination**

Very often, people tell me "I have studied all theories of success and read all self improvement books, but I still don't know what to do."

Then they end up doing nothing, and getting no results.

No matter how many books you read, how many tapes you listened to, and how many seminars you attend, if you don't take any action, you won't have any result. Action creates result. You can't change this fact.

Inaction leads to endless procrastination, and ultimately, leads to failure.

You must understand that no matter how bad situation is, you can always take some action to improve it right now, even just a little improvement. If you can not imagine how to make 1 million dollars, just make a commitment to make 100 dollars first. You might have heard of this phrase "CANI", It represents constant-and-never-ending-improvement. Success is a journey, not a destination. This journey is about improvement. As long as you are making some kind of improvement, you are leading to success.

Now you know you need to take some kind of actions,

then...

**What is right action?**

The answer is to ask your intuition. Your intuition will never fool you because it is message from higher intelligence. Your intuition always knows what is right and what is wrong.