Couples want to know how to make their relationships more sensual. They know something is missing in
sex-for-orgasm experience, delightful as it is. The trouble is, it can become almost pragmatic, a means to an end. Hunting for G-spot and popping Viagra® can become like making bread in a bread-making machine instead of by hand. You will enjoy an enhanced and deeply bonding experience when you move focus to five senses: sight, sound, touch, smell and taste.
MAKE SOME BREAD
Making bread in a bread-making machine is one-step better than going out and buying a loaf of bread, but you're still missing one of most sensual experiences you can have. Done right, it engages all senses. It also takes time. Taking time is what we think we have least of, and yet it is necessary for a sensual experience. There is nothing mechanical about making bread by hand, no buttons to push, nor is it efficient.
How to proceed? It takes only a few, cheap ingredients. Just throw them all into a bowl, mix it up, and then get your hands in there for kneading. Here's a recipe and instructions: http://www.breadworld.com/beginnertips/begintipsd.asp . You'll need to position yourself correctly, use muscles in your upper arms, and all parts of your hands -- fingers, palms, heels. Roll it with heel of your hand and slide your fingers back over it, caressing it with your palm. (You get idea!) Enjoy as dough changes from flour + water to a glistening, beautiful, shining, malleable thing. (Get messy and get into it!)
When is it ready? You have to learn that by experience. (Get it?)
For extra credit: Put bread in oven and smell it baking.
And don't miss slicing into it when it's piping hot, and spreading real butter on it and SAVOURING it!
PROCESS
See difference in experience? Both accomplish same goal, i.e., making bread, but with one of them getting there is definitely half fun!
Transform other daily experiences into something sensual applying what you've learned from this. Do you grab dog, brush him as quick as you can and move on to next task? If so, you're missing sensual experience of combing dog's hair, feeling his body and musculature, observing his reactions and expressions, using your hands, etc. You're GETTING A JOB DONE, not HAVING A SENSUAL EXPERIENCE.
You can learn to transform your relationship through magic of sensuality following these steps, in no particular order:
1. SPEND TIME EXPLORING WHAT YOU LIKE SENSUALLY.
That relates to 5 senses (sight, sound, smell, taste and touch): What smells good to you and what doesn't? What looks good to you and what doesn't? What feels good against your skin and body and what doesn't? What tastes good and what doesn't? What sounds good and what doesn't?
2. GET TO KNOW YOUR PHYSIOLOGICAL RESPONSES TO YOUR SENSUAL EXPERIENCES.
Ask yourself several times a day, "How am I feeling emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally?" Answer question. Then process what sensory experiences led to what feeling.
3. ASK YOUR PARTNER HOW HE OR SHE FEELS. This is not "How are you?" "Fine." Put down newspaper, turn off TV, turn and look at your partner, and ask, "How are you feeling emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically?" Then listen and learn.
