Sometimes we have to peel away old layers to see new transformed versions of ourselves. And there are times, too many actually, where we don't want to change even though we know that we must.

It's hard to part with our old ways - habits and belief systems that we know we've outgrown but have become so familiar with. We hang on to past because we feel that if we let it go a part of us has to go too. But that doesn't have to be case. You can change yourself, re-invent who you are and still keep memories, knowledge of your former self.

We resist change as if by instinct. We're so stuck in our old ways and then something changes and we end up fighting it. The fighting, resistance makes it harder for us to process changes that are inevitable. This is when we need to just go with flow and let it happen.

Sometimes what we fight most is best for us. Whether it's trying to lose weight or studying for a better position at your job, there comes a time where you know you have to make a change in your life. Yet even when we are aware of need to change we still resist it.

1. Clean up your bedroom When your bedroom is cluttered and untidy, energy in there will be low and slow. Clutter is a sure sign that chi is stuck, so roll up your sleeves and clean place up if you want to jump-start your love life. Ring a bell, shake a rattle, or clap your hands loudly around room to clear out old, stale energy.

2. Make room for love If you want to attract a new romantic partner--or move a casual relationship closer to commitment--make sure there is space for that person in your home. Look at your closets, shelves, and dressers, especially in bedroom; if they are all filled to capacity with your own stuff, make clearing some room for your current or future partner a priority. Aim to free up 25% of space in your bedroom for someone else's things. When you are done, take a moment to visualize your loved one's belongings finding a home there.

3. Don't work out in bedroom When you exercise in bedroom, or store your sports equipment there, you bring energy of hard work and exertion into your romance space. Do you want your relationship to feel like a tough workout? If not, move your workout stuff somewhere else; your relationship is likely to move along more smoothly.

4. Remove old relationship energy Go through your home--especially your bedroom--and remove anything that reminds you of past failed relationships; this could be an ex-boyfriend's old sweater you find in closet, photographs of you with a previous partner, a gift that reminds you (unfavorably) of a giver with whom you are no longer in love--anything that reminds you of a love that went bad. No matter how incurable a romantic you may be, do NOT keep old love letters anywhere in your bedroom unless they are from someone with whom you are still blissfully paired up.