("He" in this text - to mean "He" or "She").We react to serious mishaps, life altering setbacks, disasters, abuse, and death by going through
phases of grieving. Traumas are
complex outcomes of psychodynamic and biochemical processes. But
particulars of traumas depend heavily on
interaction between
victim and his social milieu.
It would seem that while
victim progresses from denial to helplessness, rage, depression and thence to acceptance of
traumatizing events - society demonstrates a diametrically opposed progression. This incompatibility, this mismatch of psychological phases is what leads to
formation and crystallization of trauma.
PHASE I
Victim phase I - DENIAL
The magnitude of such unfortunate events is often so overwhelming, their nature so alien, and their message so menacing - that denial sets in as a defence mechanism aimed at self preservation. The victim denies that
event occurred, that he or she is being abused, that a loved one passed away.
Society phase I - ACCEPTANCE, MOVING ON
The victim's nearest ("Society") - his colleagues, his employees, his clients, even his spouse, children, and friends - rarely experience
events with
same shattering intensity. They are likely to accept
bad news and move on. Even at their most considerate and empathic, they are likely to lose patience with
victim's state of mind. They tend to ignore
victim, or chastise him, to mock, or to deride his feelings or behaviour, to collude to repress
painful memories, or to trivialize them.
Summary Phase I
The mismatch between
victim's reactive patterns and emotional needs and society's matter-of-fact attitude hinders growth and healing. The victim requires society's help in avoiding a head-on confrontation with a reality he cannot digest. Instead, society serves as a constant and mentally destabilizing reminder of
root of
victim's unbearable agony (the Job syndrome).
PHASE II
Victim phase II - HELPLESSNESS
Denial gradually gives way to a sense of all-pervasive and humiliating helplessness, often accompanied by debilitating fatigue and mental disintegration. These are among
classic symptoms of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). These are
bitter results of
internalization and integration of
harsh realization that there is nothing one can do to alter
outcomes of a natural, or man-made, catastrophe. The horror in confronting one's finiteness, meaninglessness, negligibility, and powerlessness - is overpowering.
Society phase II - DEPRESSION
The more
members of society come to grips with
magnitude of
loss, or evil, or threat represented by
grief inducing events -
sadder they become. Depression is often little more than suppressed or self-directed anger. The anger, in this case, is belatedly induced by an identified or diffuse source of threat, or of evil, or loss. It is a higher level variant of
"fight or flight" reaction, tampered by
rational understanding that
"source" is often too abstract to tackle directly.
Summary Phase II
Thus, when
victim is most in need, terrified by his helplessness and adrift - society is immersed in depression and unable to provide a holding and supporting environment. Growth and healing is again retarded by social interaction. The victim's innate sense of annulment is enhanced by
self-addressed anger (=depression) of those around him.
PHASE III
Both
victim and society react with RAGE to their predicaments. In an effort to narcissistically reassert himself,
victim develops a grandiose sense of anger directed at paranoidally selected, unreal, diffuse, and abstract targets (=frustration sources). By expressing aggression,
victim re-acquires mastery of
world and of himself.
Members of society use rage to re-direct
root cause of their depression (which is, as we said, self directed anger) and to channel it safely. To ensure that this expressed aggression alleviates their depression - real targets must are selected and real punishments meted out. In this respect, "social rage" differs from
victim's. The former is intended to sublimate aggression and channel it in a socially acceptable manner -
latter to reassert narcissistic self-love as an antidote to an all-devouring sense of helplessness.